What do you do When the Going Gets Tough?
We’ve all been through it. Days, months, sometimes even years when it seemed as though nothing would go our way, or we felt like the odds were stacked against us, or we were just destined to stay on a path where things remained the same, despite our best efforts to make it better.
How do you approach these rough times?
People have different strategies for dealing with adversity.
Here’s what doesn’t work:
- Hiding your head in the sand and playing the game of denial – Once you lift your head up, the situation typically remains the same. The same obstacles that impeded your progress haven’t moved because you haven’t offered any resistance. This is a passive approach that often leaves you feeling helpless.
- Blaming others – This approach puts the power in other people’s hands. Yes, sometimes, there are things that are out of your control. The key is in figuring out what YOU can do to affect the situation and offer the greatest likelihood that you will impact things in the way that you hope to. Blaming others promotes negativity, not often a force that moves things forward.
Here’s what works SOMETIMES:
- Changing course – If you change course to the path of least resistance, you may not end up where you intended to be. However, if you change course because you are learning from mistakes and gathering information that reveals another road to your goals might be more effective, than changing course might be the very thing that’s necessary to see you through.
Here’s what Sets People Apart:
- Connecting with your community and asking for help – Other people have been through challenging times as well. Ask those you trust to share what strategies have worked for them. Ask people if they have resources that might be of value to you. If you have a support system, don’t be shy about accessing it. Chances are if YOU knew you could help someone, you would. Why would the people you are closest to behave any differently toward you?
- Rolling up your sleeves – Perseverance, your determination and your ability to push through what’s difficult, disappointing and what tempts you to give up, will determine the level of success you’ll ultimately enjoy. To be successful, and make it through the rough patches to the other side, you need to not only be willing to do the things that others aren’t willing to do, you need to actually DO them!
In your journey, I guaranty the going will get tough.
How will you respond next time?
Laurie Leinwand is a Certified Professional Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.
Laurie provides personal development assistance with regard to powerful issues such as how to make a change in your life and finding fulfillment and your life purpose. In addition, she works with clients interested in learning how to say no, setting limits and boundaries, as well as balancing work and life.
Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide.