Top 10 Tips for Stressed Out Moms
There’s no getting around it. Moms get stressed. We all do. The key in managing our stress is in having go-to strategies, a game plan, for dealing with difficult moments. No need to tear your hair out or yell at the top of your lungs. You can handle challenging moments with aplomb if you experiment with these 10 tips for stressed out moms.
1. Take a “time out!” – Everyone needs a break sometimes. You might take a walk around the block or call a friend for a 10 minute venting session or (I know there are plenty of moms who do this) spend a little extra time in the bathroom simply for the sake of collecting your thoughts.
2. Ask for Help – You don’t have to be “supermom.” It’s more than okay to ask for assistance. You might see if a friend can watch your child(ren) for a bit so you can run an errand on your own or spend the extra money to have someone clean your home periodically so you don’t get caught too far behind in that respect.
3. Exercise – Get your body moving and bust that stress. Do something you enjoy, whether it be running, swimming, dancing, whatever! You’ll feel a sense of accomplishment and you’ll knock your stress down several notches while you’re at it. Remind yourself of the power you have within you.
4. Listen to Music – Play some loud music in your kitchen and rock out with your kids, OR listen to something soft and soothing to create a calmer ambience in your home, your car, wherever you are..
5. Have some Fun – When was the last time you went out and had some fun with your friends? It doesn’t have to be a wild night out (unless you want it to be); it might just be grabbing a quick cup of coffee with your BFF. Having that time to connect and hopefully share a laugh or two will help you realize that your life exists beyond being a mom and will remind you that you are important to others in addition to your kids.
6. Make your Time Work for YOU (Prioritize) – Structure your days so that they are manageable. Be reasonable in terms of what you expect from yourself. Try to ensure that each day delivers to you something you seek (rather than just getting through it). When there are chores that you need to trudge through, try to create ways to make them more palatable.
7. Say NO to others sometimes if it means saying YES to you – Are you over-obligated? Do you say YES to everything that is requested of you, only to find that you feel like you’re drowning and never have time or energy for what YOU need? Learning to say NO is a powerful means of establishing healthy boundaries. When we are honest with ourselves and others regarding what we can and choose to do, we empower ourselves. When we do say YES, that response is far more appreciated, rather than expected.
8. Get Creative – What did you love doing as a child that you might not have done in a very long time? What have you always wanted to learn? When was the last time you sketched, painted, knitted, or played an instrument? Plug in to just one thing that will get your creative juices flowing. It will invigorate you!
9. Take a bath – Even a bath that’s not very long can serve to minimize your stress. Use aromatherapy by adding something to your tub with a scent that soothes you. Close your eyes and clear your mind. Restore yourself! [No tub?…Take a nice warm shower and it will serve to relax you as well.]
10. Have sex – Sexual activity releases endorphins and other feel-good hormones. However, if feeling stressed is interfering with your libido, physical contact such as holding hands or a hugging or snuggling can go a long way to helping you feel connected and supported.
The Truth: By learning ways to manage stress more effectively and actively implementing those strategies, moms demonstrate to their children how important it is to deal with stress in an appropriate way, AND by reducing their stress, are better parents overall!
What tips will YOU implement? I’d love to hear from you…
Laurie Leinwand is a Professional Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.
Laurie provides personal development assistance with regard to powerful issues such as how to make a change in your life and finding fulfillment and your life purpose. In addition, she works with clients interested in learning how to say no, setting limits and boundaries, as well as balancing work and life.
Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide.