Where the Magic Happens
This year I decided I’m really going to challenge myself. My new mantra is “step into the discomfort.” I don’t want to find myself avoiding the things I don’t want to do (but need to do) in order to be my best self.
I’ll give you an example. For a long time I wasn’t happy with my weight, and perhaps more importantly, my fitness level. I was tired, out of shape and feeling yucky overall. I’d exercise once in a while, but never regularly and I’d never push myself or take it to the next level. I’d just do it to get it over with. My eating habits weren’t great either. I’d “enjoy” certain foods like bread and sweets, only to crash later and crave them even more, leading to energy ups and downs that I knew weren’t serving me well. To be honest, I was disappointed in myself. I knew better, and I was upset that I wasn’t honoring the body I’d been given. I had the potential to be in shape and energetic and I wasn’t reaching it. What a waste! And I wasn’t doing the best job in terms of modeling for my children.
I decided in December that it was time to finally do something! I knew that I needed help. I needed to be held accountable and needed someone to push me to prove to myself that I COULD do it. I signed up with a personal trainer that I work with twice a week. I try to do some cardio on the other days but I don’t punish myself if I don’t. Those 2 training sessions each week serve as my anchor. The trainer increases weights or the number of reps or changes the exercises on a regular basis so my body has to reach beyond what it knows and enter the realm of discomfort. When I finish those workouts, I feel strong and powerful and I carry those feelings with me for the remainder of my day.
I’ve also changed the way I eat. No point in working out ambitiously only to sabotage myself with what I put in my mouth. I’ve drastically reduced the amount of sugar I consume and hardly ever eat bread. I’m not gonna lie, I miss fresh hot bagels on Sunday mornings, but I feel SO much better physically as a result. And thankfully I’ve lost a few pounds to boot.
It wasn’t easy for me to call the trainer and schedule that first appointment. I had to get past wishing I could get in shape on my own. I had to be willing to ask for help. I had to be willing to invest in myself and put some of my earnings toward my physical (and emotional) well-being. And I had to push past my doubt to make it happen.
The trainer actually didn’t show for our first training session. Another client named Laurie had texted him to cancel and he confused her with me. I could have decided not to go back at all then and there. I could have asked for my money back and decided based on that one event that he couldn’t be any good having made a mistake like that. I could have used his no-show as MY excuse to not get fit, blaming him all the while. But I didn’t. He apologized, we rescheduled, and my journey to fitness began a couple of days later than I anticipated, but the point is, it began. I followed through, and continue to.
I’ve chosen to step into the discomfort in others area of my life as well, confronting my fears, proving to myself what I really am capable of. It’s scary, for sure, but also incredibly exciting.
Have you seen this picture?
I imagine this picture every time I’m faced with fear. I consider whether I am keeping myself “stuck” or simply status quo, and missing out on all the magic, the possibility, that lies beyond my comfort zone.
I want the magic.
In order to get the magic, I have to lose the excuses, do what might be difficult, confront my fears, be willing to make mistakes or even make a fool of myself, and s-t-r-e-t-c-h.
I have to step into the discomfort.
Laurie Leinwand is a Professional Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.
Laurie provides personal development assistance with regard to powerful issues such as how to make a change in your life and finding fulfillment and your life purpose. In addition, she works with clients interested in learning how to say no, setting limits and boundaries, as well as balancing work and life.
Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide.