Asking for Help
Why is it sometimes so hard to ask for help?
I do believe that it’s important that we try to do things on our own at first. But if we are struggling, or stuck, we don’t have to remain that way.
Is it FEAR that stops you? FEAR of being seen as “less than” or weak? FEAR of being told No? FEAR of being found out (you don’t know how to do that!)? FEAR of being vulnerable?
Let’s look at what would happen if the proverbial shoe was on the other foot…
What would you do if someone asked YOU for help? How would you feel about it? Is it possible that you’d feel honored or pleased that someone wanted to tap into your perceived expertise? Would you want to share it? Would you want to contribute to someone else’s success? If you find yourself answering Yes to these questions, then isn’t it possible that your OWN request for help would be met similarly?
Chances are you’re surrounded by like-minded individuals who would feel privileged to offer you what you need. They would do this knowing that you would do the same for them.
If you are not willing to offer assistance to others, you might not get an enthusiastic response when asking someone to help you.
In order for us to receive easily, we have to be able to give.
Take a good look at yourself.
If you’re the kind of person who’d be happy to help others if you’re able to, consider that those around you would happily do the same for you. Be willing to test this out.
If you’ve discovered that you are NOT the kind of person who is eager to help others, maybe it’s time to discover why you’re withholding your gifts. Unlocking that within yourself will open you up big-time to what you are not currently allowing yourself to receive. It will strengthen your relationships with others and will help you to feel less isolated, and more shored up by the community around you.
How easily do YOU ask for help? Don’t deny yourself the opportunity to move forward. Don’t stay stuck. And don’t assume that are others aren’t there for you. You might be pleasantly surprised.
Laurie Leinwand is a Professional Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.
Some of the topics of focus in her practice as a professional life coach are assisting and supporting individuals that are stay at home parents (stay at home moms and dads are constantly forced to adapt to their current circumstances as their children grow and change) as well as those returning to work. Laurie works with people reentering the workforce who are unsure of their direction and interested in cultivating professional development skills and support.
Laurie also provides personal development assistance with regard to powerful issues such as how to make a change in your life and finding fulfillment and your life purpose. In addition, she works with clients interested in learning how to say no and setting boundaries.
Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide. Laurie is a member of the International Coach Federation (ICF) and the New Jersey Professional Coaches Association (NJPCA).