Is there a Cap on your Success?
I was coaching a client recently who had worked really hard to achieve something spectacular in her life. She was feeling euphoric as a result of her accomplishment when she heard that someone close to her had suffered an extremely upsetting disappointment. Her euphoria quickly began to fade. She questioned if she was somehow responsible for her family member’s difficulties, whether she had so much favor bestowed upon her that there was none left for those around her.
This was a limiting belief of hers that needed to be challenged in order for her to continue to progress. Otherwise, she was destined to hold herself back from her true potential, shying away from the success for which she had strived so hard.
Do you have limiting beliefs of your own? You may not even be aware of them. When things begin to take shape for you, when you find yourself moving substantially closer to your goals, do you ever notice yourself hesitating, putting off success or fulfillment for just a little longer?
Tune into the thought process linked to this behavior. These are some examples of limiting beliefs:
- I question whether I truly deserve success.
- I am unsure I will be able to handle the next step.
- I do not know if I can live up to new/increased expectations or responsibilities.
- I am concerned about how others might perceive my success.
- I question whether I have worked hard enough to earn a positive outcome.
- Once I have achieved this goal, I will have reached my success ceiling.
- If this is my personal pinnacle, I have nowhere to go but down.
- If I succeed, others will fail.
If you notice that YOU have limiting beliefs that hold YOU back, be deliberate in challenging them. Develop ‘encouraging beliefs’ that combat them.
Examples of encouraging beliefs are:
- I deserve success as much as anybody.
- I can handle anything as long as I am determined to do so.
- I have the ability to learn from, and embrace, new challenges.
- I have worked hard to achieve my goals.
- When I succeed, I can serve as a model to others to do the same.
- There is plenty success to go around.
- There will always be new goals I can choose to pursue.
Do not put a cap on your own success. Take ownership of all that is good in your life and all the good you have yet to receive. Put the cap on your limiting beliefs and step fully into your success.
P.S. Which encouraging belief will you use to keep moving forward? Is there one you would like to share that is not listed above?
Laurie Leinwand is a Professional Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.
One of her specialty areas is career life coaching for women and men transitioning between jobs or reentering the workforce. If you are stuck in your job or career and need help in finding fulfillment and your life purpose, Laurie can help you break through and arrive at your desired destination fast and efficiently. She also coaches clients who are stay at home parents. Stay at home moms and dads are required to make adjustments regularly as their children grow – this can be difficult. Laurie also works with them as they make pivotal decisions such as returning to work.
Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide.