Just Going through the Motions?
What would it mean to do things with greater intention?
Wondering what I’m talking about? Let’s start with what “intention” means: what one intends to accomplish or attain. Synonyms include aim, ambition, goal, objective, purpose and meaning.
So my question to you really is: when you do things, or say things, are you plugging into your true intention when doing so?
I’ll give you a couple of examples to illustrate why intention might matter.
I really don’t like to cook. Or what I should probably tell you is that I really dislike all the mess that needs cleaning up after cooking, and the disproportionate amount of time spent figuring out what to make for dinner, buying the ingredients, chopping and peeling and actual preparation COMPARED to the time spent actually eating.
However, when I stop for a moment and think of it less like a chore, and more as an action with intention behind it – as in, this is what I do to nurture my family, this is one way I demonstrate my love for them – then I approach making dinner entirely differently. It’s no longer something I’m just seeking to check off my list. It’s an action with a deeper meaning behind it.
Here’s another example of how recognizing, and plugging into, intention transforms the whole dynamic.
The supervisor at the town pool spies leaves and debris at the bottom of the pool just before opening. With a roll of his eyes, he says sarcastically to his staff, “Nice job cleaning the pool this morning!”
His intention is to get the lifeguards to do their job, however his statement, and the way it’s delivered, only conveys disdain and frustration. He could have more effectively said, “Guys, I need you to thoroughly clean the pool each morning before the guests arrive. Please clean those leaves out now because we’re about to open.”
Sarcasm serves to undermine our relationships. It doesn’t promote respect and often camouflages our real intentions and what it is we are really trying to say.
Imagine how your tasks and your relationships might be impacted if you considered your true intention more often in your actions and words.
Imagine less ‘going through the motions’ and speaking ‘off the cuff.’
Plugging in to your intention can shift your experiences from dull and unrewarding to more positive, effective and satisfying.
Be aware of your intentions. Be sure to see them through.
Laurie Leinwand is a Professional Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.
Laurie provides personal development assistance with regard to powerful issues such as how to make a change in your life and finding fulfillment and your life purpose. In addition, she works with clients interested in learning how to say no, setting limits and boundaries, as well as balancing work and life.
Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide.