How to Make a Change
Are you dissatisfied with the status quo but unclear what needs to be altered in order for things to get better?
Maybe you know exactly what needs to change but you’re not sure where to begin to make that happen.
Seeking change can be truly intimidating. It often evokes powerful emotions within us ranging from intense fear and anxiety to excitement and pure exhilaration. Often change represents saying goodbye to something and having to learn something new.
Laurie will help you examine your beliefs and assumptions surrounding the change you’re after. She will promote the emergence of what you already know within you, so you can formulate an actionable, manageable plan to make that change happen!
Making a change in your life is no easy task. It requires effort, persistence and energy. It may be related to personal development or your professional growth. It might lead to finding fulfillment or your life purpose. It may be a huge change or something small that will ultimately have far-reaching effects.
Be as specific as possible. Write it down. As part of this process, it might be helpful to identify not only the pros and cons of making the change, but also the pros and cons of keeping things the way they are. Find a way to keep the vision of what you seek in the forefront of your consciousness so that you are constantly aware of what you’re after. Acknowledge the feelings that are associated with the change. You are working to arrive at a destination where both your mind and body are most at ease. Recognize that it’s sometimes hard to let go of what we already know; there’s comfort and familiarity in what we’re used to.
Create a map.
Making a change in your life requires a well thought out plan. Be careful not to bite off more than you can chew; rather, delineate much more manageable bite-size pieces to ensure a greater likelihood of success. Think about ways to measure your progress. Think about what resources are available to you and what might serve to reinforce your efforts. Consider how others might react to the change and what will need to happen in order to maintain it (these are often parts of the plan people forget to take into account).
Find a role model.
A role model or mentor is likely to be an incredible resource. Learn from someone who’s executed the same or same kind of change. Ask others what the experience of making a change was like for them. What obstacles can they identify that you didn’t consider? What did they do to overcome them?
Try it on for size.
Imagine the change you seek has already been put in place OR actually behave as though the change has occurred. How do you feel when you do that? Do you feel empowered? Does the change “fit”?
Excuses are our way of avoiding what’s uncomfortable. Think about what your excuses are likely to be before embarking on your plan for change. Come up with ways to combat them. Do you feel such negative emotions such as guilt, shame or disappointment attached to excuses? If so, then perhaps it’s time to let go of them! Be accountable. If fear of making mistakes is at the top of your list of excuses you are missing out. We learn so much from our screw-ups it would be a mistake not to have them! It can enrich our change process overall and teach us where not to waste our energy moving forward (it may also provide us with the tools to be a role model to someone else one day!).
Create a space for change.
Take good care of yourself. If you don’t, you won’t have the energy to create the shift you desire. Get enough sleep, good nutrition and exercise. Allow yourself the time to consider what you want in the most specific terms possible. Connect with others. Eliminate distractions to the best of your ability (delegate nonessential tasks to others). Make time for your efforts, scheduling it in if need be.
Take note of every bit of progress. Appreciate all that goes according to plan and all that doesn’t (remember, those are rich opportunities for learning). Be grateful in other areas of your life as well. Thinking positively overall bumps up our energy. Negativity depletes it, blocking us from noticing that which is working well, resulting in our ultimately shutting down. Create deadlines for yourself if you believe they will serve you well (they don’t work for everyone). Keep things moving by rewarding progress and celebrating important milestones.
Knowing how to make a change in your life is critical in finding balance, finding fulfillment, finding meaning and discovering happiness. Being able to follow through can be made easier with Laurie’s help as one of your means of support.
Laurie Leinwand is a Professional Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.
Laurie provides personal development assistance with regard to powerful issues such as how to make a change in your life and finding fulfillment and your life purpose. In addition, she works with clients interested in learning how to say no, setting limits and boundaries, as well as balancing work and life.
Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide. Laurie is a member of the International Coach Federation (ICF) and the New Jersey Professional Coaches Association (NJPCA).
Is it Time for You to Make a Change?