combatting procrastination

Break Through the Bottleneck

I wanted to check in to see how the start of your year has been. It’s interesting – some people have talked to me about starting their year like gangbusters, but more people have mentioned that they’ve struggled a little in terms of developing some momentum.

There seem to be several reasons for this:

  • the traditional “coming down” after the holiday season – the decorations are put away, there are fewer social gatherings on the calendar,
  • the exhaustion and physical illness that sometimes follow the running around that accompanies the holidays,
  • here in the Northeast, the weather has been challenging with multiple snows and crazy temperature swings that have included extreme cold that has caused people to want to hibernate rather than get out and get things done,
  • or simply the not knowing where to begin.

So here are some simple suggestions for breaking through the bottleneck:bottleneck

1) Practice self-care – Get ample sleep, proper nutrition (avoid the tendency to carb load in the winter), exercise and take your vitamins! Rest, fuel and movement are the foundation of our existence. Ensure that you are taking steps to help you feel good and maintain good health.

2) Stay in touch – Plan social outings, participate in your community, plug into your network of support. If you don’t have a support network, now is a perfect time to cultivate one!

3) New goal? Pick a place to begin – There’s no need to belabor the thought process or seek the perfect time, place or set of circumstances. Begin somewhere and the next step will become clear after that step is complete, and so on. Don’t get ready to get ready because “ready” rarely comes.

How to keep this going?!

See these steps as gifts to you with a long-term payoff (a gift that keeps on giving) rather than things you “should” be doing.

If you practice basic self-care, engage with others regularly, and take consistent steps toward achieving something that is truly important to you, you’ll have more energy, be lifted up and begin each day with the knowledge that more good “stuff” is coming your way because you are consciously paving the way for it.

Enjoy the rest of your January!

Warmly, Laurie

Laurie Leinwand is a Professional Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.

Some of the topics of focus in her practice as a professional life coach are assisting and supporting individuals that are stay at home parents (stay at home moms and dads are constantly forced to adapt to their current circumstances as their children grow and change) as well as those returning to work. Laurie works with people reentering the workforce who are unsure of their direction and interested in cultivating professional development skills and support.

Laurie also provides personal development assistance with regard to powerful issues such as howto make a change in your life and finding fulfillment and your life purpose. In addition, she works with clients interested in learning how to say no and setting boundaries.

Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide.  Laurie is a member of the International Coach Federation (ICF) and the New Jersey Professional Coaches Association (ICF-NJ).

Finding the time..

A common theme among those that I work with is that they just can’t find the time to do the things they say are important to them. Have you ever heard yourself saying those very words – “I would, but there’s just no time”?

When there is something I want to devote time to, and I just find that I never seem to get around to it, I know I need to employ a certain strategy to make the time for it!

I schedule blocks of time on my calendar so those times are blocked out as though I’ve made an appointment with someone else. In reality, I’ve schedule timeset aside time for me to address something I believe is important. It provides a structure and enables me to see clearly whether or not there truly IS time for this other thing.  Usually, it’s more the issue of honoring a commitment to me, rather than a scarcity of time.

I’ve learned that if something is important enough, and I make the effort to carve out some time, I can usually make it work.  I even become more efficient all the way around because I’ve got less time with which to play.

Some people get less done when they have too much time in which to accomplish their tasks. However, pile some more stuff on their To Do list and they will get cracking! Are you one of those? Then you just might surprise yourself with what you initially perceived was NOT ENOUGH time.

NOT ENOUGH is a way of thinking. It forces you to play from a place of scarcity rather than wealth. That way of thinking puts you at a disadvantage. Possibilities present themselves to you when you consider that you just might have ENOUGH. To believe you have what you need puts you in a power position. NOT ENOUGH thinking does the opposite.

Perhaps then carving out time can begin with a simple shift in perception.

What are you denying yourself by not making the time to do what is important to you?

Give yourself the gift of time.  Make appointments with yourself to do what is important to you and honor them the way you would honor a date made with someone else. Trust yourself to stay within the blocks you’ve chosen to set aside.

Don’t wait until the last minute to set this time aside.  Do it now, before you forget, while the strategy is fresh in your mind, and watch how you manage to find time that never seemed to exist before.

Let me know how it goes..

Warmly, Laurie

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Laurie Leinwand is a Professional Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.

Laurie provides personal development assistance with regard to powerful issues such as how to make a change in your life and finding fulfillment and your life purpose. In addition, she works with clients interested in learning how to say no, setting limits and boundaries, as well as balancing work and life.

Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide.

Reaching the Finish Line

Are you one of those people that start out on a mission full throttle and as you near the finish line your energy wanes, and that end result you’ve been working so hard for perpetually feels just beyond your reach?

Then what happens? Do you give up? Do you allow yourself to become distracted (or SEEK distraction)? Do you tell yourself it wasn’t meant to be?

I posted a quote on Facebook earlier this week that said, “If we did all the things we were capable of doing we would literally astonish ourselves.” Isn’t it true?! What amazing things we could accomplish if we didn’t stall just before completion!

So how do you follow through? How do you give yourself the opportunity to astonish on a regular basis?

There are a few things that might be happening as you near the completion of a goal.

1)   You meet with greater resistance. – Things suddenly get harder and require more effort.  You start to wonder if it’s “worth it” to go to all that trouble. You discount the importance of the original goal and modify it to meet your needs at the moment.

2)   You are uncertain about what comes next. – The journey toward obtaining the goal has taken up lots of time and energy, and has dictated how you’ve operated the last long while. What do you do after completion?  That “not-knowing” can be enough to cause you to slooooow the process down, take a step backward, or even unknowingly thwart it.

3)   You fear maintaining the new normal. – Maintenance means subscribing to a new set of rules, which means there’s a limit to just sitting back, relaxing and enjoying. A different kind of effort has to be put forth, and if it isn’t, that new level of achievement is at risk of fading away. You sometimes sidestep your goals in order to avoid the loss you might feel if you are unable to maintain your results.

4)   You are intimidated by having to meet a higher standard. – You can hesitate if you know that you’ll have to work even harder next time as you raise the bar once again.

5)   You challenge your current view of yourself. – Astonishing yourself results in your being further defined by new accomplishments. This may feel at odds with how you’ve viewed yourself prior to that point.

So what do you do to combat these challenges?crossing the finish line

  • Go back to the beginning. – Take some time to reaffirm your commitment to your goal and why it was so important to you to begin with.  Keep the completion of that goal and what it means to you in the forefront of your mind.  You may want to post something (a picture representing its completion or an inspirational quote) in a place where you will see it on a regular basis so that you are constantly reminded to see it through and of the rewards that are in store for you.
  • Surrender to the possibility that awaits you. – You might not know what comes next.  However, chances are that the skills and determination that saw you through to this new destination are enough to take you even farther.  Trust that you can handle what is around the bend.
  • Enlist support in maintaining the new normal. – Chances are others will be excited about your progress and may very well want to be a part of it.  Ask for, and invest in, help in keeping the momentum going.
  • Be open to being astonished once again. – Take the opportunity to enjoy.  You have a choice to keep reaching higher, or not, and you set the time frame for that.
  • Imagine what it will be like to have already achieved your goal. – Try it on for size.  Envision it in a way that is in alignment with the values that are most important to you.  Reaching new levels of success does not need to challenge your view of yourself; allow it to enhance it.

You CAN reach what you now see as your finish line!  And I bet you can surpass it in ways you may never have imagined!

Go ASTONISH yourself!

Warmly, Laurie

P.S.  If you need some assistance with this, I encourage you to go here and sign up for a complimentary 30 minute strategy session with me so we can finally propel you toward your finish line in a powerful way.  I look forward to hearing from you!

Laurie Leinwand is a Certified Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.

Laurie provides personal development assistance with regard to powerful issues such as how to make a change in your life and finding fulfillment and your life purpose. In addition, she works with clients interested in learning how to say no, setting limits and boundaries, as well as balancing work and life.

Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide.

Is there a Cap on your Success?

I was coaching a client recently who had worked really hard to achieve something spectacular in her life.  She was feeling euphoric as a result of her accomplishment when she heard that someone close to her had suffered an extremely upsetting disappointment.  Her euphoria quickly began to fade.  She questioned if she was somehow responsible for her family member’s difficulties, whether she had so much favor bestowed upon her that there was none left for those around her.

This was a limiting belief of hers that needed to be challenged in order for her to continue to progress.  Otherwise, she was destined to hold herself back from her true potential, shying away from the success for which she had strived so hard.

Do you have limiting beliefs of your own?  You may not even be aware of them.  When things begin to take shape for you, when you find yourself moving substantially closer to your goals, do you ever notice yourself hesitating, putting off success or fulfillment for just a little longer?

Tune into the thought process linked to this behavior.  These are some examples of limiting beliefs:

  • I question whether I truly deserve success.
  • I am unsure I will be able to handle the next step.
  • I do not know if I can live up to new/increased expectations or responsibilities.
  • I am concerned about how others might perceive my success.
  • I question whether I have worked hard enough to earn a positive outcome.
  • Once I have achieved this goal, I will have reached my success ceiling.
  • If this is my personal pinnacle, I have nowhere to go but down.
  • If I succeed, others will fail.

If you notice that YOU have limiting beliefs that hold YOU back, be deliberate in challenging them.  Develop ‘encouraging beliefs’ that combat them.

Examples of encouraging beliefs are:

  • I deserve success as much as anybody.
  • I can handle anything as long as I am determined to do so.
  • I have the ability to learn from, and embrace, new challenges.
  • I have worked hard to achieve my goals.
  • When I succeed, I can serve as a model to others to do the same.
  • There is plenty success to go around.
  • There will always be new goals I can choose to pursue.

Do not put a cap on your own success.  Take ownership of all that is good in your life and all the good you have yet to receive.  Put the cap on your limiting beliefs and step fully into your success.

Warmly, Laurie

P.S. Which encouraging belief will you use to keep moving forward?  Is there one you would like to share that is not listed above?

Laurie Leinwand is a Professional Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.

One of her specialty areas is career life coaching for women and men transitioning between jobs or reentering the workforce.  If you are stuck in your job or career and need help in finding fulfillment and your life purpose, Laurie can help you break through and arrive at your desired destination fast and efficiently.  She also coaches clients who are stay at home parents.  Stay at home moms and dads are required to make adjustments regularly as their children grow – this can be difficult.  Laurie also works with them as they make pivotal decisions such as returning to work.

Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide.

Asking for Help

Why is it sometimes so hard to ask for help?

I do believe that it’s important that we try to do things on our own at first. But if we are struggling, or stuck, we don’t have to remain that way.

Is it FEAR that stops you?  FEAR of being seen as “less than” or weak?  FEAR of being told No?  FEAR of being found out (you don’t know how to do that!)?  FEAR of being vulnerable?

Let’s look at what would happen if the proverbial shoe was on the other foot…

What would you do if someone asked YOU for help?  How would you feel about it?  Is it possible that you’d feel honored or pleased that someone wanted to tap into your perceived expertise?  Would you want to share it?  Would you want to contribute to someone else’s success?  If you find yourself answering Yes to these questions, then isn’t it possible that your OWN request for help would be met similarly?

Chances are you’re surrounded by like-minded individuals who would feel privileged to offer you what you need.  They would do this knowing that you would do the same for them.

If you are not willing to offer assistance to others, you might not get an enthusiastic response when asking someone to help you.

In order for us to receive easily, we have to be able to give.

Take a good look at yourself.

If you’re the kind of person who’d be happy to help others if you’re able to, consider that those around you would happily do the same for you.  Be willing to test this out.

If you’ve discovered that you are NOT the kind of person who is eager to help others, maybe it’s time to discover why you’re withholding your gifts.  Unlocking that within yourself will open you up big-time to what you are not currently allowing yourself to receive.  It will strengthen your relationships with others and will help you to feel less isolated, and more shored up by the community around you.

How easily do YOU ask for help?  Don’t deny yourself the opportunity to move forward.  Don’t stay stuck.  And don’t assume that are others aren’t there for you.  You might be pleasantly surprised.

Warmly,

Laurie

Laurie Leinwand is a Professional Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.

Some of the topics of focus in her practice as a professional life coach are assisting and supporting individuals that are stay at home parents (stay at home moms and dads are constantly forced to adapt to their current circumstances as their children grow and change) as well as those returning to work. Laurie works with people reentering the workforce who are unsure of their direction and interested in cultivating professional development skills and support.

Laurie also provides personal development assistance with regard to powerful issues such as how to make a change in your life and finding fulfillment and your life purpose. In addition, she works with clients interested in learning how to say no and setting boundaries.

Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide.  Laurie is a member of the International Coach Federation (ICF) and the New Jersey Professional Coaches Association (NJPCA).

5 Maintain Your Sanity Strategies for the Holidays

Do you get stressed as the holidays approach?  It doesn’t have to be that way!  Here are 5 strategies to help you make the holidays exactly what you want them to be and enable you to maintain your sanity at the same time:

1.  Start Planning NOW – What needs to happen between now and the holidays to ensure that you are able to enjoy them as much as possible?  Are you hosting a party, do you anticipate going to some, do you have a list of people for whom you will need to get gifts, do you need holiday attire?  Map out what you need to do across the next several weeks so that not everything is saved for the last minute, stressing you out and spoiling your fun.  If you strategically plan out what you need to do, shopping and preparing will be less of a chore and more of a pleasure.  You may not be able to take full advantage of last minute sales, but you’ll save yourself the “procrastinator’s pain” that goes along with them.

2.  Plug Into What Keeps You Calm – Pre-holiday season is NOT the time to ditch your exercise routine and healthy eating habits!  More than ever, you need what anchors you in times of turbulence.  Find time to take a breath here and there to make certain you’re on track and utilizing your energy, resources and time in the most efficient way possible.

3.  Recognize Your Limits – Don’t overschedule or obligate yourself.  Delegate when you can.  Say NO to some things so that you can fully enjoy and embrace the things that mean the most to you.  Be honest with yourself and others about what is reasonable for you to accomplish and what’s not.

 4.  Start Living the Life You Want to Live NOW – Are you waiting until January 1st to make your resolutions?  Why is that day any more meaningful than today?  What would happen if you began to experiment with making the kind of choices you want to be making in your life sooner rather than later?  There is no better way to head into the holidays with optimism and empowerment than by treating yourself well, and by respecting your choices to do right by yourself.

5.  Name What You Want! (and tell others!) – Instead of having people guess what you want for the holidays, let them know.  You can be obvious, or make a game of it, but whatever you do, you will only have yourself to blame if you haven’t been clear about your wishes and desires and end up disappointed that a loved one missed the mark.  You are, in fact, doing others a favor if you DO tell them exactly what would make you happy.  They now have a roadmap and you’ve quite possible reduced the stress they are feeling in connection with the holidays.

Now…what you seek as a special gift may be something that cannot be purchased in stores.

It might be the opportunity to really focus on YOU, what you hope to accomplish in the next year, and a way to formulate, and STICK WITH, a plan to truly make that happen!

Have you thought about making that kind of investment in yourself, but you hesitated or put it off because you’re accustomed to putting others first?  This is your time!  And if you won’t do it for yourself, ASK someone to GIFT it to you!!  The first step in being true to yourself is in asking for what you want.

Stay tuned for a special holiday offer…..

Warmly,

Laurie

Laurie Leinwand is a Professional Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.

Laurie provides personal development assistance with regard to powerful issues such as how to make a change in your life and finding fulfillment and your life purpose. In addition, she works with clients interested in learning how to say no, setting limits and boundaries, as well as balancing work and life.

Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide.

Is Procrastination Keeping You Stuck?

What do you gain by procrastinating?

Is it that:

  • You work better under pressure.
  • You get to do more enjoyable things first.
  • You don’t have to deal with the challenge of doing something difficult or unpleasant until LATER?

What could you gain by NOT procrastinating, by doing something sooner rather than later?

  • A feeling of being in control.
  • A reduced sense of overwhelm.
  • The ability to ask for help if not waiting until the last minute (additional resources).
  • You wouldn’t have to be reminded (nagged?) repeatedly.
  • A sense of empowerment in facing a challenge.
  • Reduced stress without that thing hanging over your head.
  • The knowledge that you may be facing your fear.
  • The ability to cross something off your To Do list.
  • A sense of accomplishment.
  • More options open to you.
  • Time built in for unpredicted obstacles.

Procrastination is like a dirty word.  Lots of us procrastinate but most of us don’t like to admit it.  We like to feel productive and efficient, but are we really?

Procrastination is avoidance.  It always limits our choices in the end.  For some, this works.  Too many choices can be overwhelming.  For the rest of us, we end up putting undue stress on ourselves, and often others as well.

To combat procrastination, consider tackling the most difficult (or annoying) task you have to do FIRST!  Once that’s complete, all else will seem easy by comparison.  That thing, that had so much power over you beforehand, will now be a thing of the past.

Focus on what you CAN do.  What you focus on GROWS, and if you are busy focusing on what you think you CAN’T do, or what you don’t want to do, those things will become bigger in your mind.

Determine whether your expectations are realistic.  If you need things to be perfect, no wonder you’re procrastinating!  Be reasonable in terms of what you hope to deliver and what you want to accomplish.

Is it possible that you’re afraid of what comes AFTER…?  Could that be why you keep putting things off?  Asking questions about what comes next, doing some research, or formulating your OWN plan might be exactly what you need to squash your inclination to put off your own success.

Be accountable by letting others know what you’re aiming for.  Share milestones so others are aware of the progress you’re making.  It’s harder to procrastinate when others are waiting to hear about your results.

Another way to fight procrastination is to break down tasks into bite-size pieces.  When we’re intimated, we back away.  Smaller, more reasonable objectives are much easier to take on.

So if you’re ready to gain all that you could by kicking procrastination to the curb, I congratulate you!  See if tackling the hardest part first, focusing on what you’re actually able to do, examining your expectations, facing your fear, being accountable, and breaking things down all serve to get you to your own success FASTER!  Why wait?!

Warmly,

Laurie

Laurie Leinwand is a Professional Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.

Some of the topics of focus in her practice as a professional life coach are assisting and supporting individuals that are stay at home parents (stay at home moms and dads are constantly forced to adapt to their current circumstances as their children grow and change) as well as those returning to work. Laurie works with people reentering the workforce who are unsure of their direction and interested in cultivating professional development skills and support.

Laurie also provides personal development assistance with regard to powerful issues such as how to make a change in your life and finding fulfillment and your life purpose. In addition, she works with clients interested in learning how to say no and setting boundaries.

Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide.  Laurie is a member of the International Coach Federation (ICF) and the New Jersey Professional Coaches Association (NJPCA).

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