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Break Through the Bottleneck

I wanted to check in to see how the start of your year has been. It’s interesting – some people have talked to me about starting their year like gangbusters, but more people have mentioned that they’ve struggled a little in terms of developing some momentum.

There seem to be several reasons for this:

  • the traditional “coming down” after the holiday season – the decorations are put away, there are fewer social gatherings on the calendar,
  • the exhaustion and physical illness that sometimes follow the running around that accompanies the holidays,
  • here in the Northeast, the weather has been challenging with multiple snows and crazy temperature swings that have included extreme cold that has caused people to want to hibernate rather than get out and get things done,
  • or simply the not knowing where to begin.

So here are some simple suggestions for breaking through the bottleneck:bottleneck

1) Practice self-care – Get ample sleep, proper nutrition (avoid the tendency to carb load in the winter), exercise and take your vitamins! Rest, fuel and movement are the foundation of our existence. Ensure that you are taking steps to help you feel good and maintain good health.

2) Stay in touch – Plan social outings, participate in your community, plug into your network of support. If you don’t have a support network, now is a perfect time to cultivate one!

3) New goal? Pick a place to begin – There’s no need to belabor the thought process or seek the perfect time, place or set of circumstances. Begin somewhere and the next step will become clear after that step is complete, and so on. Don’t get ready to get ready because “ready” rarely comes.

How to keep this going?!

See these steps as gifts to you with a long-term payoff (a gift that keeps on giving) rather than things you “should” be doing.

If you practice basic self-care, engage with others regularly, and take consistent steps toward achieving something that is truly important to you, you’ll have more energy, be lifted up and begin each day with the knowledge that more good “stuff” is coming your way because you are consciously paving the way for it.

Enjoy the rest of your January!

Warmly, Laurie

Laurie Leinwand is a Professional Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.

Some of the topics of focus in her practice as a professional life coach are assisting and supporting individuals that are stay at home parents (stay at home moms and dads are constantly forced to adapt to their current circumstances as their children grow and change) as well as those returning to work. Laurie works with people reentering the workforce who are unsure of their direction and interested in cultivating professional development skills and support.

Laurie also provides personal development assistance with regard to powerful issues such as howto make a change in your life and finding fulfillment and your life purpose. In addition, she works with clients interested in learning how to say no and setting boundaries.

Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide.  Laurie is a member of the International Coach Federation (ICF) and the New Jersey Professional Coaches Association (ICF-NJ).

What are YOU worth?

I just returned from my second 2-day trip to San Francisco. These trips are for the purpose of developing my business. It is there that I met a supportive group of people and my own coach, who holds a vision for me and my business even when I have my moments of doubt.

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These trips are a big expense in terms of time, money and energy. It takes me a full day to get to these seminars. I fly home on the red-eye so as not to “lose” an extra day but I just can’t seem to sleep on the flights home because I’m so pumped up from the meetings and feel so ready to move on my new and improved initiatives. However, I usually pay the price the following day when lack of sleep and not knowing what day it is begins to mess with me.

Flights are expensive and so are hotels and, of course, there is the cost of the program itself. But it’s worth it. And here’s why –

This is time set aside solely for me and my business. There are no distractions. Because I’ve made this financial investment in myself and my progress, you’d better believe I’m going to follow through on what I need to do to ensure I have every opportunity to succeed in manifesting my vision.  And, once again, I’ve determined that things are far more difficult (and don’t have to be) when I operate in isolation.

Support of others keeps us honest, real, accountable and moving forward. This is why I’ve chosen to go to the effort that I do.

The alternative is to endure a much longer learning curve and possibly succumb to the moments of self-doubt.  I don’t want that to be an option for me.

  • What do you do to invest in yourself?
  • Do you question the value of investing in yourself?
  • What leaps might you make if you enlisted support?

Secure some support for yourself, invest in YOU, and watch what happens!

You’re worth it, aren’t you?! It’s time to put YOUR ideas into action.

Warmly, Laurie

P.S. If you think I might be the right person to support you, let’s set aside time to talk about that possibility. I have several offerings and we can discuss what might be the best fit for you.  Click here to schedule an appointment. Let’s talk soon.

Laurie Leinwand is a Professional Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.

One of her specialty areas is career life coaching for women and men transitioning between jobs or reentering the workforce.  If you are stuck in your job or career and need help in finding fulfillment and your life purpose, Laurie can help you break through and arrive at your desired destination fast and efficiently.  She also coaches clients who are stay at home parents.  Stay at home moms and dads are required to make adjustments regularly as their children grow – this can be difficult.  Laurie also works with them as they make pivotal decisions such as returning to work.

Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide.

Reaching the Finish Line

Are you one of those people that start out on a mission full throttle and as you near the finish line your energy wanes, and that end result you’ve been working so hard for perpetually feels just beyond your reach?

Then what happens? Do you give up? Do you allow yourself to become distracted (or SEEK distraction)? Do you tell yourself it wasn’t meant to be?

I posted a quote on Facebook earlier this week that said, “If we did all the things we were capable of doing we would literally astonish ourselves.” Isn’t it true?! What amazing things we could accomplish if we didn’t stall just before completion!

So how do you follow through? How do you give yourself the opportunity to astonish on a regular basis?

There are a few things that might be happening as you near the completion of a goal.

1)   You meet with greater resistance. – Things suddenly get harder and require more effort.  You start to wonder if it’s “worth it” to go to all that trouble. You discount the importance of the original goal and modify it to meet your needs at the moment.

2)   You are uncertain about what comes next. – The journey toward obtaining the goal has taken up lots of time and energy, and has dictated how you’ve operated the last long while. What do you do after completion?  That “not-knowing” can be enough to cause you to slooooow the process down, take a step backward, or even unknowingly thwart it.

3)   You fear maintaining the new normal. – Maintenance means subscribing to a new set of rules, which means there’s a limit to just sitting back, relaxing and enjoying. A different kind of effort has to be put forth, and if it isn’t, that new level of achievement is at risk of fading away. You sometimes sidestep your goals in order to avoid the loss you might feel if you are unable to maintain your results.

4)   You are intimidated by having to meet a higher standard. – You can hesitate if you know that you’ll have to work even harder next time as you raise the bar once again.

5)   You challenge your current view of yourself. – Astonishing yourself results in your being further defined by new accomplishments. This may feel at odds with how you’ve viewed yourself prior to that point.

So what do you do to combat these challenges?crossing the finish line

  • Go back to the beginning. – Take some time to reaffirm your commitment to your goal and why it was so important to you to begin with.  Keep the completion of that goal and what it means to you in the forefront of your mind.  You may want to post something (a picture representing its completion or an inspirational quote) in a place where you will see it on a regular basis so that you are constantly reminded to see it through and of the rewards that are in store for you.
  • Surrender to the possibility that awaits you. – You might not know what comes next.  However, chances are that the skills and determination that saw you through to this new destination are enough to take you even farther.  Trust that you can handle what is around the bend.
  • Enlist support in maintaining the new normal. – Chances are others will be excited about your progress and may very well want to be a part of it.  Ask for, and invest in, help in keeping the momentum going.
  • Be open to being astonished once again. – Take the opportunity to enjoy.  You have a choice to keep reaching higher, or not, and you set the time frame for that.
  • Imagine what it will be like to have already achieved your goal. – Try it on for size.  Envision it in a way that is in alignment with the values that are most important to you.  Reaching new levels of success does not need to challenge your view of yourself; allow it to enhance it.

You CAN reach what you now see as your finish line!  And I bet you can surpass it in ways you may never have imagined!

Go ASTONISH yourself!

Warmly, Laurie

P.S.  If you need some assistance with this, I encourage you to go here and sign up for a complimentary 30 minute strategy session with me so we can finally propel you toward your finish line in a powerful way.  I look forward to hearing from you!

Laurie Leinwand is a Certified Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.

Laurie provides personal development assistance with regard to powerful issues such as how to make a change in your life and finding fulfillment and your life purpose. In addition, she works with clients interested in learning how to say no, setting limits and boundaries, as well as balancing work and life.

Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide.

Asking for Help

Why is it sometimes so hard to ask for help?

I do believe that it’s important that we try to do things on our own at first. But if we are struggling, or stuck, we don’t have to remain that way.

Is it FEAR that stops you?  FEAR of being seen as “less than” or weak?  FEAR of being told No?  FEAR of being found out (you don’t know how to do that!)?  FEAR of being vulnerable?

Let’s look at what would happen if the proverbial shoe was on the other foot…

What would you do if someone asked YOU for help?  How would you feel about it?  Is it possible that you’d feel honored or pleased that someone wanted to tap into your perceived expertise?  Would you want to share it?  Would you want to contribute to someone else’s success?  If you find yourself answering Yes to these questions, then isn’t it possible that your OWN request for help would be met similarly?

Chances are you’re surrounded by like-minded individuals who would feel privileged to offer you what you need.  They would do this knowing that you would do the same for them.

If you are not willing to offer assistance to others, you might not get an enthusiastic response when asking someone to help you.

In order for us to receive easily, we have to be able to give.

Take a good look at yourself.

If you’re the kind of person who’d be happy to help others if you’re able to, consider that those around you would happily do the same for you.  Be willing to test this out.

If you’ve discovered that you are NOT the kind of person who is eager to help others, maybe it’s time to discover why you’re withholding your gifts.  Unlocking that within yourself will open you up big-time to what you are not currently allowing yourself to receive.  It will strengthen your relationships with others and will help you to feel less isolated, and more shored up by the community around you.

How easily do YOU ask for help?  Don’t deny yourself the opportunity to move forward.  Don’t stay stuck.  And don’t assume that are others aren’t there for you.  You might be pleasantly surprised.

Warmly,

Laurie

Laurie Leinwand is a Professional Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.

Some of the topics of focus in her practice as a professional life coach are assisting and supporting individuals that are stay at home parents (stay at home moms and dads are constantly forced to adapt to their current circumstances as their children grow and change) as well as those returning to work. Laurie works with people reentering the workforce who are unsure of their direction and interested in cultivating professional development skills and support.

Laurie also provides personal development assistance with regard to powerful issues such as how to make a change in your life and finding fulfillment and your life purpose. In addition, she works with clients interested in learning how to say no and setting boundaries.

Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide.  Laurie is a member of the International Coach Federation (ICF) and the New Jersey Professional Coaches Association (NJPCA).

Seeing Firsthand Why Support is so Important

My 16 year-old son was injured a week ago Friday at his ice hockey game.  He left the rink in an ambulance despite being able to walk, but it was scary just the same, bringing my 10 year-old to tears.  My son separated his shoulder, tearing several ligaments.  His collarbone now protrudes from the top of his shoulder.  He will heal (though that collarbone will likely serve as a reminder of what happened).  He will probably heal faster and more efficiently due to the fact that he is an athlete and is in really good physical condition.  He is strong and agile, so that while physical therapy will be challenging and painful I’m sure, his body is ready for it.  He won’t be starting from square one.  The foundation, his physical “infrastructure,” allows his body to deal with the stress of the injury effectively and he’ll bounce back quickly.

His body supports him.

And so have his family and friends.  He’s received so many notes, phone calls and messages of encouragement.  That, too, serves to lift him up when he’s feeling discouraged or impatient, wanting desperately to be right back on the ice.

What kind of support exists for you?

First – how well do you take care of YOURSELF so that you can weather the stressors life throws at you on a regular basis?  Stuff happens.  How healthy is the physical and emotional foundation you have built?  Are there things you can do to strengthen it further, like eating right, exercising and getting enough rest?

Second – how well do you tend to your relationships, so that when you hit a rough patch or need to be buoyed a bit by those around you, people are willing to do so?  How often do you lighten someone else’s load, even just a little?  I believe that kindness and positivity come right back at you when you need them to.

And third – and this is key – are you willing to receive support when it is offered to you?  Are you willing to ask for it?  While it’s important to do what you can for yourself (this is how you return to “normal” and grow stronger), sometimes you need to simply stop, look around, and take note of the support you’ve cultivated.  Soak it in.  Be grateful for it.  You laid the ground work.  You created your foundation.

And if you decide that your foundation has a few cracks, then it’s time to do something about it.  Don’t wait for something bad to happen to realize you have no safety net.  Begin construction now.

So you can see why support is so important.  I saw it firsthand.  So take good care of yourself and others you care about.  And when you’re down, your support system (within and beyond) will lift you up, just as my son’s did for him.

Warmly,

Laurie

Laurie Leinwand is a Certified Professional Life Coach assisting clients with a variety of personal and professional life issues. Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching encompasses Laurie’s work as a life coach for women and men, career life coach and work-life balance coach.

Some of the topics of focus in her practice as a professional life coach are assisting and supporting individuals that are stay at home parents (stay at home moms and dads are constantly forced to adapt to their current circumstances as their children grow and change) as well as those returning to work. Laurie works with people reentering the workforce who are unsure of their direction and interested in cultivating professional development skills and support.

Laurie also provides personal development assistance with regard to powerful issues such as how to make a change in your life and finding fulfillment and your life purpose. In addition, she works with clients interested in learning how to say no and setting boundaries.

Ideas 2 Action Life Coaching is located in Randolph, NJ and services the surrounding communities of Morristown, Denville, Parsippany, Florham Park and Mountain Lakes, New Jersey, though much of her coaching is done on the phone and is accessible to clients worldwide.  Laurie is a member of the International Coach Federation (ICF) and the New Jersey Professional Coaches Association (NJPCA).

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